Honest question: Isn’t “alienation of maker from product” simply code for “factory”? And aren’t we talking about distributors when we speak of “overcoming the distance between creators and consumers”?
Monthly Archives: August 2013
Counseling Cohabiting Couples
Cohabitation needs to be addressed boldly yet graciously… Always turn to Scripture when discussing cohabitation with couples. When we don’t, they feel we are offering our opinion, which they can choose to disagree with. When counseling cohabiting couples, focus on two key areas…
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Cohabitation is increasing and becoming more widely accepted as an alternative to marriage, with the result that marriage is being delayed or disregarded altogether. Cohabitation is here to stay. How do we counsel those for whom cohabitation is the expected norm?
If you are a pastor, counselor, or church leader, you will increasingly encounter unmarried couples who are living together.
Many cohabiting couples are not actively part of a church community. They might attend church service, but have minimal involvement outside of that. Counseling such couples is an important opportunity to help get them involved in church community and service. As they begin to make friends and receive support in preparing for life and marriage now, it prepares them for helping others in the future.
Counsel each couple on an individual basis instead of trying a one-size-fits-all approach. All cohabiting couples have unique situations they are facing. However, most will fall into one of three general categories:
1. Willful couples care little about what pastors say because they have a low view of Scripture and the authority of the church. They usually claim to be Christians and will tell us their Christian parents and friends are fine with their lifestyle. They often ask to be shown a verse that says they can’t live together. They need to be taught about God’s design for marriage in Scripture.
2. Stuck couples know it is sinful and wrong to be living together, but feel trapped and ashamed. Most of these couples want to make changes, but need support, encouragement, and a plan to act upon.
3. Unaware couples have never heard the biblical view and once they do, they want to change. They are soft to Scripture and want to be led. They are quite often either not yet Christians or very young in the faith. Often they are in difficult living situations in which separation won’t be helpful or practical (for example, they own a house together, are raising kids together, or are new to the city with no family or friends). They need prayerful help crafting a plan, ongoing counseling, and care from the church.
A biblical approach
As church leaders, it is easy to fall into one of two extremes. We either ignore the fact that couples are living together and do nothing, or we heavy-handedly refuse to serve them at all, imposing rules upon them that don’t lead to conviction or changed hearts. We must fight the temptation of these extremes and instead stay on the road of grace and truth. Continue reading
August Burns Red: Creative Captivity
Here are the lyrics:
This is a barren wasteland,
A lonely place where inspiration goes to die.
Rescue the beauty that’s left.
Restore the character that’s long since gone,
Because these colors must never fade.
The beat must carry on.
We will fight to save this.
We will fight to keep it alive.
This is a cause worth fighting for.
We will rescue and restore.
Rutherford on Discouragement
Let us be ballasted by grace, that we not be blown over, and that we stagger not. Yet a little while and Christ and His redeemed ones shall fill the field and come out victorious. Christ’s glory in triumphing… is yet in the bud and in the birth, but the birth cannot prove an abortive. “He shall not faint not be discouraged till He have brought forth judgment into victory.” Let us only mind our covenant and the very God of peace will be with you. Your brother in Christ,